Tuesday, September 29, 2009

Potty Training High & low lights

The alternate trainer came home Thursday night from two nights away - and clearly he felt it important to teach the trainee something during this process
(in the interest of full disclosure - no activity actually took place during this photo opportunity)


The highlights from three days of commando potty training
1) Cleaning out the diaper bags and breaking out a purse for the first time in 18 months - woohoo!!
2) The bowl of m&m's that was full & available - pretty sure the trainer ate more than the trainee
3) the number of projects that got done here because the trainer was housebound for three days
4) Watching my little baby grow into a little girl

The lowlights of commando potty training
1) the effects of even one m&m on the trainee
2) The tears each morning as trainee remembered her diapers had gone bye bye
3) Being housebound for three days in 100+ weather; it was too hot to even be outside in the baby pool!
3) Watching my little baby grow into a little girl

Saturday, September 26, 2009

We interrupt this post to bring you breaking news

I have a great post about the final day of "commando potty training" - but it will have to wait. There is something much more important right now. There is a provision in the current tax bill that is set to expire in December of 2010 that provide a significant tax credit to those who adopt. For many - if not most - adoptive families, both domestic & international, this tax credit is the vehicle by which they can afford a very expensive process. There is no "health insurance" for those who choose to build their families by adoption - and this tax credit is critical to insuring that fatherless children continue to find their forever families. There is proposed legislation right now that could make this tax credit permanent and guarantee that some assistance would remain for adopting parents.

To the right of this post is a link - please take 10 minutes right now to click on it, read the details and to find out who you can contact to help preserve this credit. This transcends political party rhetoric - this is about kids who desperately need moms & dads. If you have ever wondered how you can help - here's a great way. If you've been touched by Becky's adoption story or anyone else - here is a way you can honor those kids.

this is not a self serving post; our family is not eligible for this credit - but many we know have used it; I can not imagine where their kids would be right now if not for this credit helping their families bring them home

Friday, September 25, 2009

Thankful Thursday (on Friday)

1) I am thankful that my husband can not stand Las Vegas and all it represents and when he has to go there, chooses to stay off the strip at a Marriott Courtyard; I am so grateful to be married to a wonderful man of God.
2) I am so thankful that one of our CWA families - Jagi - finally received her consulate appointment - the last step to going to China to pick up her daughter. This was a huge praise as it had been delayed and her daughter turned 14 on November 11 - and would be ineligible to be adopted. Thanking Jesus that He moved mountains so this precious girl would have a forever family.
3) Thanking God today for tiles floors.
4) I am so thankful for the friends who have stopped over to keep us company during commando potty training. They have helped keep me sane :)

Thursday, September 24, 2009

Commando Potty Training-Day 2

Day 2 at potty training central - the trainer has got a bad case of cabin fever and the trainee...well, she got creative with uses for the training potty! I wish she could use it this well for it's stated purpose!

The trainee has developed an interesting habit of saving one of the two m&m she receives for successful task completion until just before she needs to "go" again. She also didn't quite understand the big girl panties do not have the same absorbency or shock absorption as cushy cloth diapers - a critical difference - especially when hurling herself onto the tile floor in defiance of trainer!
Tomorrow is another day - hopefully a dry one!

Wednesday, September 23, 2009

Commando Potty Training

One of the nice things about being an over 40 mom is that there are a lot of people you trust that have gone before you. When I polled them all for the best way to potty train, it was over whelmingly the "Naked +75" method - naked for three days and $75 to clean the carpets! Fortunately, we have tile floors - so it's free! Today was day one - and while I won't embarrass Becky with full body shots of her nakedness, these were too cute to pass up!
(She's enjoying her after nap popsicle with Dora)



Day one went as well as can be expected with a very stubborn, very resistant to change child! The m&m incentives for proper toilet utilization seemed to dramatically improve her success rate! One day done - two to go!

Tuesday, September 22, 2009

Autumn Moon Festival

One of the bigger Chinese holidays is the Autumn Moon Festival. So the Lucky Mommy's decided to have our own little celebration. We made a reservation (sort of) at a local Chinese restaurant (and I am pretty sure we won't be welcomed back there!), got dressed up & went to celebrate! I would like to tell you I have a good grasp on exactly what we are celebrating, but after some brief research there are several legends surrounding this holiday. No matter - it's a part of our kids culture, so off we go! Kids, parents, grandparents and siblings - 19 in all!
Becky looked so adorable - even with the palm tree ponytail - or maybe especially with it!


Becky and her BFF Gracie -
do they look guilty or what???
Trying to get a mommy and me shot.....not very successfully!
A little more success here
This could be known as the "calm before the storm" -
This would be known as "the storm" - led by none other than the littlest whirlwind in the blue dress - they delighted in running between the tables and chasing each other around -
A little moon cake settled everyone down - the kids each got a golden pig moon cake - that they actually liked! Mia showing hers off in true game show fashion!
Kailee and Becky sample one of the adult moon cakes - seems they like it! It must be in their genetic make-up as none of the rest of us cared too much for them!

Sunday was the first time since before the beginning of the summer that all five of the original Lucky Mommy's have been together. While it was chaotic (ask the poor husbands!), it was so nice to share some time together. These friendships are so valuable to our kids as the share a common history, but they are also so important to the mommies - who have developed friendships that extend beyond our kids. I am so grateful for these moms!

Friday, September 18, 2009

LID!

This afternoon, we received an email from our wonderful case manager Mei telling us we were logged into the CCAA system on September 2, 2009! This doesn't really mean anything too much - except that we know for sure our documents are in country and are in the process of being translated & reviewed. Mei estimates 3 months till we receive our Letter of Acceptance (LOA) for Katie...then 2-3 months for travel approval (TA) (the Hague process is much slower than the pre-Hague), then 6-8 weeks till travel. Meaning.....Becky's birthday present might be her new big sister!
We also just found out that two of our dear friends, Robin and Kathleen are LID the same day, from the same Project Hope List - so it is likely we will travel together! God has SO blessed us!

Monday, September 14, 2009

Legoland

I should have posted this last week - but the ER visit on Saturday preempted this. On Thursday, Becky and I joined Tanya and Gracie and Tanya's friend Joy on a road trip to Carlsbad to visit Legoland. I had been there 10 years ago when it first opened, but wow - it's grown (and gotten very expensive; fortunately we found tickets on line at a significant discount). We drove down together, and then the girls gave Tanya's new double stroller a trial run!
Becky is not a huge fan of the rides - and while I can "force" her on some...not this one! Gracie had a great time being a helicopter pilot. Becky also got "bounced" form a ride that she actually wanted to go on because she was too short :(
Gracie and Becky are becoming friends and Beacky asked when we go somewhere "Gracie and Tanya?"


I am not sure how my genes got into Becky, but she loves the boat rides. Any ride with water or a boat and she loves it. She drove the boat for a while - had quite a time and did rather well (if I do say so!)
I am not sure who is having more fun here - Gracie or Joy! I love this picture for what it says about the love of a child and the pure joy that comes from those relationships
And no day would be complete (at least for Becky & Gracie) without some water fun!

Sunday, September 13, 2009

Definitely not just another beach day

You know those days when you start out thinking things will go one way - and you find yourself in the emergency room several hours later wondering what happened? Saturday was one of those days.

It all started out so innocently and like other Saturdays before - packed up the car, the kids, the friends, the boogie boards and the food and headed for a day at the beach.
Playing in the sand....
cruising for chicks (actually - only Matt did this)......
hanging with the family......
more playing in the sand and the water....
and of course the new sport of choice for our family - boogie boarding!
it was a big wave day at Huntington Beach - and that's when it happened...
Becky, Destiney, Ashlee & I were sitting in the sand, reading playing & hanging out. All of a sudden, Ashlee goes "Karen, Karen dad's bleeding". I look up to see Doug coming up out of the waves with blood running down his face. We get him over to a chair, and Matt goes to the (conveniently located right next to us) lifeguard stand to ask them for some gauze.
After talking to him for a few minutes, they determined her went "over the falls" (apparently this is a lifeguard term for getting the stuffing beat out of you by a wave). Because of the way he fell on his face and snapped his neck back, they were concerned that he could have a neck or spinal injury and wanted the paramedics to check him out.
This required a ride up the beach to the boardwalk, where the paramedics were waiting. At this point, I wasn't overly worried; I have some basic first aid training and he was moving his feet and fingers, had no numbness or tingling and was conscious; however, on the ride up to the boardwalk, the lifeguard who I was riding with told me that their concern was that they have seen this injury where a person walks away and several hours later they wind up in a wheelchair because there is a stress line fracture or other crack that goes undetected at the time but results in paralysis later.

Now - I am concerned (very concerned - you know, the kind where you want to throw up). It was a very long 5 miles ride to the hospital for both of us - Doug in the back of the ambulance strapped to the back board with his head immobilized and me sitting in the front seat trying not to fall apart in front of the 20 year old very cute EMT.
Doug and I spent the next hour & a half (it is amazing the attention you get when you arrive by paramedics) at the Hoag Hospital ER. After a series of x-rays, Doug was given the all clear to go home (with limited boogie boarding recommended for the next few days!). He has a bad sand rash on his face, and he's a little stiff but he's doing ok. For those minutes from when they loaded him in the truck to the "all clear" verdict in the ER, my heart was heavy with concern for my husband yet my eyes were cast upon the Lord and my trust was in Him.

Doug reads a devotional each night - and most nights it's a scripture with a commentary; last night - it was simply this:

"Because he loves me" says the Lord, "I will rescue him; I will protect him for he acknowledges my name. He will call upon me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him"
Psalm 91:14-15

I believe with all my heart that the Lord did this for us yesterday. When I think about how one millimeter in any direction of his landing could have changed the outcome yesterday, I am filled with thanksgiving and praise for a God who is faithful to what He promised - to protect us. He was with Doug in the water, the lifeguards and EMT personnel and me in the truck. He heard the prayers that were hastily and heartfully raised up. He is our Lord and our God. Praise be to Him.

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Brotherly Love

Becky loves her big brother Matt. Every time she sees a guitar (or anything that resembles a guitar) - she exclaims "Matt, Matt" gleefully & expectantly. She gets so excited when he comes over and will play with him for hours. On Sunday, I got back from running errands to find a gangly 5' 10" teenager folded into the baby pool with his little sister (and the dog)! They were having a blast!





I don't like "palm tree ponytails" at all. Becky's hair is growing very slowly - and on Friday when we were at the beach, the other girls were sporting very cute ponytails, and Becky got it in her head that she had to have a ponytail too. So - in the interest of peer pressure....here's her palm tree!
Hanging around jammin'
Back to the beach on Labor Day -



Pop-pop even got into the Southern California spirit and joined us (this was after his nap in the sun!)


It's been a great, fabulous wonderful summer and I am sorry to see it end - but hey - it's still hot here, so we are going to stretch it out as long as we (I) can!