Christmas Eve. The 11th day in our countdown.
Honestly - this day (and the next one) can go either way in our household.
Big days come with BIG feelings for all kids - but for kids from a tough background - think BIG feelings on steroids. Great description of what they go through can be read about here
In anticipation of the potential fallout, I kept it low....and slow....and easy. We started with a quick visit and gift exchange with the BFF's. This family - has become such a thread of grace and love in our lives. They aren't an adoptive family - and they aren't "raising trauma" but they have willingly and lovingly stepped into that world with us to walk along side of us. That is a real Christmas gift that gives all year long!
This picture represents more than just a nice fancy family Christmas Eve meal. It represents healing. It represents two years of HARD work - on our part and the part of our kids. The process really started two years ago for me. It's far from over. WE got a glimpse though that all of it is working.
We believe in Santa here
(please refrain from telling me about lying to my children, distorting the true meaning of Christmas or any other "reasons" I am a bad parent for this - we've got it handled here thank you very much!)
We also believe in the reindeer - and we think Santa is well fed enough, so our tradition is to leave reindeer food instead of cookies!
The food is out...come on Santa - we are ready for you!
The magic and miracles of Christmas - all wrapped up in pink snowman pjs!
I can't believe some people have the audacity to judge your parenting over Santa Clause! For example I'm not Christian but I love your blog because it's honest about adoption, which I hope to do someday :)
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